After the speech, a very tall and very attractive woman stood up and started talking to the host of the event. I was approached by several people with questions so did not have the ability to extricate myself to do some proper stalking. As the story came out later, although I didn’t realize she was tall at first, she was quite determined to meet me as well…and came over and introduced herself as I was talking to several other people. We both exchanged “that” look and I knew I was going to do some research.

After a short amount of Facebook stalking, I discovered we had mutual business acquaintances and made some inquiries. Each of them started with, “She is incredibly sweet.” Several commented that knowing both of our personalities, that we would probably hit it off. So I sent her a message with the title “You have been officially Facebook Stalked.” Yes, subtlety is something I have been known to have issues with on occasion. So after a few messages we spoke on the phone and arranged a date the following week.

Dinner went well and we spent a couple of hours chatting and then decided to head to Starbucks to chat for a few hours more. I decided I really didn’t want to play it cool and invited her to be my date on Monday to a Labor Day Party…being the smooth criminal that I am, I did not kiss her and left her hanging…because that’s how I roll baby.

Well, Sunday came and I received a text so we ended up watching a movie Sunday evening…and then Monday came…along with the Labor Day Party of one of my clients, Edwin and Niya Dix…actually they are one of my VIP favorite friends/clients. The Dix party was fantastic, their beautiful home and property, all kinds of catered food, the pool, and a bounce house. My new companion actually knew more people than I did! We stayed for a couple hours and headed home…full and happy!

The next day, Niya called me, “Where did she come from?”. Niya talked my ear off for 30 minutes about how happy I looked, what a striking couple we made (that date is 6′ and athletic) and going on and on about all the comments people were making about who we were and where the girl I had brought came from. Surprisingly, this did lead to some interesting conversation about something I was struggling with…the age difference.

I’ve never really considered SERIOUSLY dating anyone more than 7 or 8 years younger than myself…and the new friend is 24. As the Regional Director of a National Charity, she certainly has a poise and composure beyond her years and having been a ballet dancer for 20 years, she is very graceful…the poise was something Niya commented on as well.

The point was, I initially did struggle with the age a little bit…Niya talked to me about the 13 year age difference between her and Edwin. I also spoke to my adopted Father who mentioned he and my adopted Mother were 8 years apart,and I spoke with a new client who has a 15 year age difference between he and his wife. The consensus was it is something that can work out very well if you have the right two people…especially when you take someone in their mid-twenties and mid-thirties. We shall see…it is a non-issue for me now but there certainly are a lot of jokes thrown around!

The rest of this week, we hung out a couple of times as I changed out a flat tire for her and then I got to be arm candy and meet some of her closest friends and business acquaintances at the ACEL Business Mixer in Gainesville on Thursday night.

At the moment, I’m just going with the flow…it is nice to have someone that you can curl up on a couch with and have a discussion about a topic that you may have opposing views over, but no one gets upset.

I’ve realized over the last six weeks that I’m being very blessed with great businesses success…and it makes me wonder if and how all of this works together. Am I experiencing business success because I’m happy and positive now and am attracting other positive and happy people into my life?I don’t know…all I do know is I’m happier personally and professionally than I have been in a very, very long time and I am excited to see where it all leads.

I’d count myself as one of the luckiest guys on the planet. I have had the opportunity in my life to date incredibly beautiful and intelligent and funny and caring women. All possessed at least two of these traits, most possessed all. Up until the last year I know *I* wasn’t ready.

I’ve also learned that certain people weren’t meant to be…or in the case of the last two girls I’ve learned that certain ages are not going to work with for me. Both were very tall (6′) and both were very beautiful…although one was quite a bit smarter than the other…the “less smart” girl was a great deal more affectionate.

I’ve come to the realization that Gainesville unfortunately has a  very limited…ah…how shall we say…dating pool? At least for someone of my age and standards. I’d certainly be willing to give up height in a woman, that is just a nice bonus. However intelligence, humor, and looks…those are hard to come by especially when I start apply all of my minor criteria after that…the chance of someone having what I’m looking for when I’m looking for it in Gainesville is probably minimal.

So my “work” allows me a certain degree of flexibility and this Summer I’m contemplating a move to either Orlando or Tampa…more of a tele-commute actually with me spending 3 or 4 days at the alternate “home”.

Orlando has some of my good friends…Rush and Tracy. Orlando also would provide the ability to train at a good  jujitsu place again plus an active RX7 community. Unfortunately I think Orlando is ghetto/dirty as hell.

Tampa would be great as I’d be able to spend time with my sisters…play RX7′s with my buddy Tory…train jujitsu seriously with my friend Matt. Negatives would include I perceive Tampa as a bit snobby/image conscious, I’d have to risk running into my Mom, and although I’m not big on going out, the thought of running into the ex could very well disintegrate into a confrontation of some sort.

My decision is still a few months away, but I’m seriously pondering.

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Now playing: Sia – Breathe Me
via FoxyTunes

I’m very torn right now. On one hand I want to date but on the other, for the first time in forever, I have no real desire to have a physical relationship with someone. I believe the last time I decided to be celibate was maybe 5 years ago and that lasted for 9 months. I don’t know…I’m just in a really weird place.

There was someone who for the last year wanted to date me, seriously, and I kept putting it off. I finally decided to give it a chance but that opportunity had passed. I have the opportunity to date someone right now who is quite fantastic…but the thought of being physical and intimate with someone…it just isn’t where my head is.

I like love sex and anyone who knows me is aware of how physical I am. I just don’t want that aspect to be in control right now where in the past I’ve let the physical take over…even when I knew someone was wrong for me…just for the fun factor of a month or three.

Hopefully I’ll get my head back in the game shortly…in the meantime it is an odd feeling to want a relationship…but at the same time being unwilling to go looking for a new one.