I’m 32, unmarried, and like to assume that I was genetically blessed with at least average looks. To say I’ve had at least one or two sexual encounters would be fair . They ranged from terrible (one or two) to several women who were just on the same wavelength as I was which = awesomesauce.

That being said, this brief list notes several items that have helped separate the bad, the average, the good, and the unbelievably awesome…at least in regards to the physical aspect of a relationship.

8 Things Women Suck at in Bed

It’s not always up to the man to make things exciting. Sometimes the woman should take things into their own hands. Many women fail at doing so because they are either too shy or too lazy to do the little things that matter to a man. Here is a list of the top things women usually suck (no pun intended) at in bed.

Not Moving
Ladies, some of you are what men call a “Dead Lay”. A “Dead Lay” is a woman that just lays there while the man does all the work. You’re suppose to move too even if the guy is on top. Grab his body and move yourself toward him. Show him you want to fuck him and that you enjoy sex just as much as he does.

Kissing other parts of our body
You know how your man kisses your neck and licks almost every area of your body? We like that too. We even like to have our nipples played with (even though many men won’t admit it.) Do some teasing. Don’t limit yourself above the neck. Feel free to kiss us all over.

Taking control
Many women feel it’s the man’s job to manage everything and take control. While that is fine most of the time, how about the woman managing how and what is done for once? Doing so lets your man know you want him and results in even more excitement for him, hence increasing it for you as well.

Keeping it new
It’s not just up to the guy to keep the new moves coming. You have to keep him excited too. Get an outfit out and do a little teasing. You know that little catholic schoolgirl outfit he likes? Wear it! Don’t be shy.

Communicating pleasure
A man is only [small edit by me] as good at sex as his partner. Even somebody that performs poorly in bed hits the spot sometimes, but a man cannot learn where that spot is if you don’t somehow indicate to him that you’re hitting it. Make a little noise even if you have to do a little acting. Breathe a little harder. Do something! Anything!

Paying attention to our pleasure
Some of you ladies need to learn to take pleasure in giving pleasure. It’s sometimes as though you don’t care what your partner feels. Asking little things like “Do you like that?” and “How does that feel?” tell your man you want him to feel good. Trust me, it drives us crazy.

Cleaning up immediately after sex
Some of you ladies like to jump up after sex and immediately get the bed sheets off the bed and throw them in the laundry. Acting as though sex with your partner has somehow violated your sleeping space is not the way to go. Sit and cuddle instead. Lay and relax for a while without being so consumed with erasing traces of what you just did.

Cleaning your body immediately after sex
Again, acting like you’ve been violated in some way and running into the shower doesn’t make us men feel too great. It makes us feel like you are bothered with trading bodily fluids, and that’s just not what sex is about.

If your sex life is on the skids, improving these things will make a difference for both his and your pleasure. Hopefully you are a woman that doesn’t have to worry about these things. If you feel you don’t suck at any of these, well, maybe it’s time to try your skills on somebody new.